Month: September 2020

This was true for me today. So I went to get my license tag for my car. It is a bit early but I just wanted to get it out of the way. I had already decided to get two year tags. Just found out about this option recently and thought that was a good idea. My driver’s license expires in 2022 and I could just kill two birds with one stone that year. Good! Well, not so much. Come to find out, I never got my tag last year 😳. I have been riding dirty as hell for 11 months. WTF!!! When I tell y’all I was disturbed, I mean I was flabbergasted. That is so not like me. I break rules but some rules I abide by with no questions asked and having a current tag is one of them.

Now I am on my phone looking at my calender of what happened last year. Trying to figure out what the hell was going on. Why would I have not gotten my tags!?!?!?! Unfortunately, the phone did not give me any clues. I even called my friend Shayla to see if she could remember what happened last year. I know that is unreasonable for her to remember what was going on in my life, but it was worth a try. Now here comes the funny part. I had noticed the tag on my car was for 2019 about a month ago and I thought someone had stolen my tag. I was going to file a police report 😆. I told my mom and my friends this shit. I was talking all types of junk. On top of it, I couldn’t find my registration so I just knew someone had taken both 🤦🏾‍♀️.

I drive a lot. I have been up and down these roads non-stop. I just went to Detroit, MI on Saturday. I have been to South Carolina, Cleveland, OH, Lima, OH, Ann Arbor, MI, Trenton, MI and so many other trips here and there. Y’all I have even been in a car accident! No one notice this. This is just unreal. When I tell y’all God is Good, this is an understatement. He has had my back for the last 11 months and I had no idea. I am blown away. I am filled with so much gratitude for this blessing. Thank God!

I know y’all have heard the saying that said God is working things out even when we can’t see it or feel it. This is a prime example. Here I am thinking I’m good. Don’t have a clue that I am driving illegally. And God has protected me. So my day was ridiculous because I couldn’t believe this bit of information or that I had messed up so bad. But it was amazing because I felt God’s grace, favor and mercy working in my life.

I just had to share this story. Today they charged me for this year’s tag and last year’s tag. Now I still have to go back next year for a new tag and 2022 for a tag and new driver’s license. Oh well, at least I know in 2022 I can get a two year tag and won’t have to return for another 2 years. Has this happen to anyone else besides me? Got a story to tell? Please leave it in the comments or you can email me at elsims27@yahoo.com. Continue to be well and whole and check your license plates 😂. Much love 🧡 💚

 

I dislike when I have thoughts, great thoughts, when I am driving. They flow so poetically with all the right words. I then get home to write them down and I am screwed. I have retained the general idea but the wording is off. It doesn’t sound right. Yes, I am aware of talk to text. Most of the time it fucks up whatever I say. The most annoying part is when I pause between thoughts, it stops recording and I have to start it back up. I’m driving and trying to pay attention to all of these non-drivers, I don’t have time for this shit. Lol. I have given up on plenty of good writing topics because of this. The topic I am getting ready to talk about is one that originated while driving. I can tell you these words are not the same ones that I had in the car but I believe they will do. Here goes.

Imagine that you are at a department store. Your arms are full of different outfits that you are going to try on in the fitting room. At this point you are imagining for two reasons. One, because I said so. Lol. Two, because we can’t try clothes on anymore due to the pandemic. Yep, new reality. So please use your imagination as much as possible here. Anyways, you get in the dressing room and hang up all of your potential purchases. The first thing you try on fits perfectly. It complements your shape, it is your style and it is just the right price. It is going in the Yes pile. The second item you try on fits good, but when you look in the mirror you realize it is not saying anything. It’s just alright. It goes in the Maybe pile. Now you try on an outfit that you weren’t really sure about but who knows. It looks horrible. It is ill fitting, the color does nothing for your skin tone and it is just not you. This goes in the No pile. You proceed to go through the rest of the clothing. Choosing what you love and setting aside what you dislike. Wavering on the possibles, the ones that fit but may not really highlight your best self. 

I don’t know where this thought came from that day. Maybe from all the books I have been reading, seminars I have watched or just my general desire to be better. I look into myself all the time. I know and accept my flaws. If we can call them that. I love myself anyway. Let’s look into this a little bit. Do you perceive your flaws as things that you have decided that you need to work on? Or did someone tell you what your flaws are and you accepted it as truth? Or are they even flaws at all?

I can be very outspoken and blunt with my delivery. I do not like misunderstanding so I figure if I say it straight out, people will get my point. From someone else’s perspective, this is usually considered a flaw but I love this about myself. I get annoyed with myself when I look back and realized I was muted when I should have spoken out. This is the first outfit in the fitting room. It is perfect and I am going to keep it for sure.

I am anti-social and socially awkward. I realize I am an introvert, but I still want to be able to carry myself in social settings as an extrovert. I want to be the person that can strike up a conversation at networking events. I want to make connections that can benefit me with all these ideas going on in my head. Create partnerships that are mutually benefical. As they say, “It is not what you know but who you know.” I don’t know many people. Lol. Though I am friendly when approached there is a chance the conversation will die if I have to keep it going. This is the second outfit in the fitting room. It fits me yet it is not saying anything for me as a person. These characteristics do not allow my light to shine at all. I don’t want to keep it. 

Now the last outfit and all the other ill fitting ones that were put in the No pile is other people’s opinions, perspectives and flaws they perceive you to have. You tried them on and it doesn’t fit. It is uncomfortable. You cannot move properly. You look and feel bad with them on. It is time to take that shit off and put it in the No pile. We will live our whole lives dressed in other people’s perceptions of who we are and never truly finding out who we are. Get to know who you are, who others think you are and who you want to be. 

I started this post a while ago. Other thoughts came up that just flowed from beginning to end so I went with it and posted those first. The last few book club zoom meetings and community calls with Money Mind Academy have been on this topic. I said I need to finish this post ASAP. People are struggling and they need words of encouragement. People need to know that just because your mom or dad, who you love and respect said it, that doesn’t make it true. Your best friend who doesn’t have clear vision of their future but want to shit on yours, may not be your best friend. The ex who low blowed you every chance they got to lower your self-esteem because they knew they weren’t worthy of you was wrong! And so many other incidents were words stuck to you but should have bounced off. 

Get to know yourself. And fix only what you see is broken and will stop you from achieving your dreams. Love on yourself. As Adam Roa says in his song You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For, “Treat yourself like someone you loved.” Shake off the darkness and let your light shine bright. I need you. The world needs you. Fuck what they say. You are perfectly imperfect. Just as God made you. Stay well and whole. Much love 🧡 💚