Month: August 2025

One of the books we read in book club was Be Your Future Self Now by Dr. Benjamin Hardy. I find with self development books that I don’t agree with about half of what is said, but I always get a few tidbits to take with me. There were parts I was like is he serious?!?! For instance, in one of the chapters, Dr. Hardy said we picked the life that we are currently living before we came to be. I am pretty sure I would not have picked a life with two autoimmune diseases, allergies, and this height. Naw, dude. I do like to try and view things from a different perspective though. So I say, if I did pick this life, it was because I knew I was strong enough to handle it. As I told my friend Monica today, I wouldn’t want anyone else to have to go through this, and my heart hurts for the people that do.

One thing Dr. Hardy does in his books is ask us to write a letter to our future selves. It can be us in a year, five years, ten years, or any length of time. The amount of time is up to you. I chose a year because I can’t see any further than that. My life is so different from one day to the next. Five years from now is a total mystery to me. I thought I would share my letter with you all.

Dear Future Ebony,

I hope that the things you said you were going to do in 2025 has happened. That you finished the book. That you have completely moved and are happy in your space. That you see, it did work out in your favor. That when you walk into your apartment, you accomplished the goal of only buying things that made you happy. I hope you have revived your blog and have at least one thousand followers. I really hope you have found the one thing that sets your heart aflutter, and you are setting goals to achieve it. I want the best for you and I am going to help you get it.

I truly recommend this book by Dr. Hardy for this exercise alone. I mean now that I told you about it, you can just do it as well. But there is a few other gems he shares as well. It’s worth it. Be well and whole. Much Love 🧡 💚

I am on a quest to read/listen to 104 books this year. Last year, I wanted to complete 52 books, technically one book a week, and I smashed that goal. I believe I completed 60 something books. I will update once I find my planner where I wrote down the books I read. This year, I am not particular about genre or length. I just want to accomplish this goal. I usually read a book from beginning to end, even if I don’t like parts of the book. I am finding that this no longer holds true for me. I am starting to accumulate a list of DNF (did not finish) books. And it is getting longer by the day.

I don’t want to be one of those judgemental people who says a book is bad because who am I? I have never written a book. I don’t have any published works outside of magazines and newspapers. These authors have spent days and nights creating these works of art, and I respect them for it. The imagination used to create new worlds and universes, creatures, and races of people. I am amazed by how their minds work. I have to give credit where credit is due. Yet, sometimes, when I read/ listen to a book, I find myself not caring how the story ends. That is when I know the book is going to be a DNF.

I am currently at around 78 books, I just finished two that I haven’t recorded. I am looking for book suggestions. I am not really a fan of suspense or thrillers, I get impatient waiting for the reveal. I don’t like steamy romances, I think we all get it, I don’t need 2 chapters describing the sex. I have started to like sci-fi, fantasy, and of course, action. I always like butt kicking. I look forward to anything you have to share. Be well and whole. Much Love 🧡 💚

I keep thinking back to the day I did a grocery pickup, and when I opened my trunk, a glass jar with sauerkraut fell out on the pavement. I said a few choice cuss words and was calculating in my head the best possible way to get this mess up. Then a young man walked up, kinda (he had a full leg brace on his left leg), and offered to help me get the mess up. I, of course, was like, “Dude, you are about as bad as me. I don’t want you hurting yourself trying to help me.” Being the gentleman that he was, he insisted and proceeded to grab a towel out of his car. I had an empty bag, and he used the towel to pick up the shards of glass off the ground. He threw some glass into the bag, and a piece of sauerkraut popped up and landed on my cheek 😂. He took a corner of the towel and gently wiped the sauerkraut off my face. And I haven’t been the same since.

That was the cutest, sweetest thing a stranger has done for me. My heart 🥰. I hope that someone, somewhere, is thinking of a kind gesture I did, and their heart is full at the memory. I hope you all have had at least one experience such as this in your life. And if you haven’t, I pray that you will. Be well and whole. Much Love 🧡 💚