But First, Coffee

Have you ever agreed to something that you later wish you didn’t? Even worse, you actually volunteered to do it. Why? Why would I purposely torture myself? I don’t know. I have no excuse.

So my really good friend stated she was going to do the Daniel Fast for 21 days. Me, being the oh so supportive friend, said, I will do it with you. She texted me the food list and we set a date. Now I did have a general idea of the foods I was allowed to eat versus the foods I was not allowed to eat. I eat pretty healthy for the most part so I was like I got this. No alcohol, no soft drinks, no coffee. Wait, hold up! No coffee?!?! You have got to be kidding me. Let’s say at this point I realized I made a big mistake 😆.


The first 3 days without coffee I had the worst headache. It was so annoying. I didn’t want to quit then, I just wanted the headache to go away. About a week in I was over not having coffee. My mom makes it every morning and the smell was hurting my feelings 😂. One day, I said fuck this I am going to get up and make me a cup of coffee the next morning. I didn’t care, I had had enough! That day I woke up and a peace came over me. It was so weird. I know it was nothing but God. That peace continued to carry me through each and every day.


Now the last 3 days has been a whole different story. Through this experience I understand why people give up, why they quit. These days have been the worst ones out of all 21 days. Being so close to the finish line but my resistance is low. I feel put upon (even though I did sign up for this). Yes, my story is about coffee, but it is so much bigger than that. It is about life and how we approach obstacles and struggles. I have an end date in sight. I know I can make it. Yet, most situations we encounter in life are not that cut and dry. We do not know when the struggle will end. We don’t even know how we are going to come out on the other side of it. And these factors can make it easy to give up. It is so much easier. It seems like such a relief.


I’m here to tell you, don’t give up. Don’t quit! I know you have heard it plenty of times before, but I felt the need to say it again. The same struggle you want to give up on will come back around and you will be at square one. You will have to start all over again. You are in it right now. And you could be halfway through or 3 days from the goal. Do you really want to start all over again? HELL NO! Quitting is the easiest answer but it doesn’t make it the right one. Strengthen your resolve. Take it one day at a time. Pray. Whatever it takes for you to not just get through, but get better, do it! I didn’t believe in myself. Sometimes I forget how strong I am. I just needed a reminder. I am going to be your reminder. I believe in you. You are stronger than you think. You are resilient. You are able to succeed beyond your own imagination. You are a finisher.


Seriously, I am not giving up coffee again. It makes me happy and it isn’t hurting anyone. The only way I will stop drinking coffee again is if my doctor says they have found a cure for MS and for me to receive it I have to give up coffee 😆. I do however appreciate how this minor inconvenience gave me a whole new perspective on life, on me and my capabilities. I thank God for the lesson that was taught and the insight I gained. I hope you all were able to get a little perspective from this as well. It’s a new year and we are facing not just the same struggles, but new ones as well. We have made it this far. Let’s keep pushing. Be well and whole. Much Love 🧡💚

P.S. I am one day away. So excited ☕😀

 

How Did It Go? Year In Review, Vivyd Article

Bringing in the new year with a fresh Vivyd Magazine article for you. Yep, I am still writing, if nothing else. Hope you enjoy!

https://vivydmagazine.com/articles/f/how-did-it-go-the-year-in-review

Here is one last tip I didn’t include in the article. I seen this idea on Instagram and I loved it.

I’m sold on this one. I already have 3 things to put on paper. Now I just want some cute paper to write them on 🤦🏾‍♀️.

This year I am going to ask a favor of you. If this blog post or any other post, past or future, resonates with you, please share it with someone else. Someone who you feel may benefit from this content. This would be greatly appreciated. If you are not well and whole, let’s make a plan to get there this year. Much love 🧡💚

 

Year in Review, Photo Edition

It is the last day of 2021. Parts of this year flew by and other parts dragged on so slowly. I lost parts of it completely. And other parts are vivid in my mind. The one good thing is I take pictures. Pictures that allows me to recall places, events and other things. Here is parts of my past year in pictures and quotes.

Lobster rolls at Slapfish, Hilton Head Island, SC

If you are trying to impress me with your vehicle, it better be a food truck. – Unknown
Faith is not believing that God can, it is knowing that He will. – Unknown
Bill, Fellow MS Warrior

The struggle is real, but so are the blessings. – Unknown
Dinner at Benchmark Restaurant

Marry the one who gives you the same feelings you have when you see your food coming in a restaurant. – Unknown
Onion’s Graduation

This is your reminder that you are powerful beyond measure. – Unknown
Chalupa and my mom at Hamilton at the Fox Theater in Atlanta, GA

I’m just like my country, I’m young, scrappy and hungry and I’m not throwing away my shot. – Lin Manuel Miranda
ATVs with Onion and my mom in the Mojave Desert

Let your faith be bigger than your fear. – Unknown
My first podcast feature

When God sees your trying, he will handle the rest. – Unknown
Winter sunset at the Wright Family Park, Bluffton, SC

You mastered survival mode. Now it’s time to live. – Unknown
Onyx Cafe in Toledo, OH

If it wasn’t for the coffee, I’d have no identifiable personality whatsoever. – David Letterman
I will choose courage over fear when it comes to how I open my heart to love. – Morgan Harper Nichols
Day Ones in Las Vegas, Nevada

If you aren’t in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback. – Brene Brown
Bar Louie in Perrysburg, OH

Food is our common ground, a universal experience. – James Beard
Putting together my Alinker bike I received from the donations of very special people through my crowdfunding campaign.

If you are going through hell, keep going. – Winston Churchill
Franklin Conservatory

I am going to do the best I can with what I got. – Mariah Carey

Day Ones in Dallas, TX

And when we both get older, with walking canes and hair of grey. Have no fear, even though it’s hard to hear. I will stand real close and say, thank you for being a friend. – Golden Girl Theme
Article in Vivyd Magazine

I’m not even the best me yet. – Unknown

Thank you all for rocking this year out with me. Being patient as I went through my own personal dramas and growths. Tuning back in after I took months off. Believing in me and encouraging me. For any part you have played in my life, I thank you. I appreciate you. I love you. Be well and whole. Much love 🧡 💚