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August 1, 2019September 22, 2020

Ebony, Can I Tell You Something?

I seen this post on Instagram on NaturallyCurly’s page. Of course my cheesy self was immediately pulled in. I wanted to think of my own response before I read other people’s responses. I thought of one, which I will get to in a little bit. Then as the day went on, I thought of a few more two word responses to the question. I realize I would tell younger me so much. I would provide her with love, wisdom, and encouragement that would have allowed for so many more experiences. Here are my various 2 words of advice with additional explanantion.

Live Free

This is the two words that came to mind first. Just recently I realized that I have placed a lot of restrictions on myself. I believe that these restrictions have hindered me from living my life to the fullest. When I was younger I wanted to move to New York. Younger me, fucking move to New York. You have no kids and you are unmarried. This is the time to live your life. Do shit that you want but may not make any sense. There is nothing you can’t do. You are worthy and deserving of the best that life has to offer. Never doubt it or yourself! Shake loose others expectations. Explore the possibilities. Live free. What do YOU really want?

Shine Bright

No doubt about it I have a pretty strong personality. There have been times when I have toned myself down because people didn’t have it within themselves to be able to accept me. Or in relationships, as to not start an argument. Baby girl, do not dim your light. You have no idea how important this is. The people who love you and that will love you are exactly the people who are meant to. If someone doesn’t accept you as you are, changing the best parts of you is not the answer. Moving on is. You will always have room for growth and change. Do it, but don’t compromise who you are to be loved and accepted. The light that you give off will draw the right people to you. It will brighten someone’s day. It will make people feel loved and accepted. It will influence others in a positive way. You have no idea how powerful you are. Shine bright 🌞 beautiful! The world needs YOU!

Forgive, Forget

I don’t hold grudges against other people, but I do against myself. I replay mistakes I have made over and over again in my head. I beat myself up about what I should have done or should have said. I want younger me to evaluate the mistakes, process the lessons learned and move on. Why dwell on past mistakes? There is nothing that you can do to change them. You are perfectly imperfect and I love you as you are 🥰.

Right Now

If there is one thing we don’t know, it is when we are going to die. We take it for granted that we will have an opportunity to do tomorrow what we didn’t do today. Who really knows how and when this life is going to change? That is why young Ebony, it is important that you walk in the park and enjoy the scenery. To go to the Elks on Sunday evenings and ballroom until you are dizzy. Have more sex (yeah I said it). Take more trips by yourself. Go skating on Wednesdays at Ohio Skate. Kiss the one guy smack dab on the lips(you know who I’m talking about). Make a bucket list and check off as many as you can. Do the unexpected. Speak your mind. Wear heels even with sweat pants 😂😂😂. Ok just joking on this one. I probably would have worn all my favorite heels more often though. All you have Ebony is right now. Make it count!

What 2 words of advice would you give your younger self? Or would you give her/him any at all? I love things that make me think. Questions that makes me evaluate my life, my decisions, my mistakes. There are some people who feel they would not do anything differently if they were given the opportunity. I did end up reading the responses and of course some were the same as mine. They were pretty good responses especially when the person elaborated as to why they would say those 2 words. I will not die with regrets, but I would definitely do things differently. I would live free, shine bright, forgive & forget and focus on the right now. And so many other things, dammit! The most important lesson to take from this is that I can still do these things. It is never too late to live free, shine bright, forgive & forget and live in the right now. Present Ebony, what are you waiting on?

Drop your 2 word advice in the comment section. And take that advice to yourself to heart. Be well and whole 😘.

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July 31, 2019July 6, 2020

Me, Pt. 4

Probably shouldn’t have used this picture. I look sneaky 😂😂😂.

I have so many half written blog post waiting to be completed, as usual. This one was the most completed one so thought I would share. As you all know, I’m a little crazy and the more I reveal about myself, the more likely you are to think I am totally crazy. Lol. I’m cool with that though. Enjoy!

I very rarely wear matching bra and panty. I pretty much get up in the morning and whichever ones I grab, I wear. Now if I know that I am wearing something that requires a certain color or style, I will take the time to select underwear for that particular outfit. If you encounter me with matching bra and panty, bom chicka wah wah 😘.
Don’t you dislike when you agree to do something or go somewhere and when the time comes you are no longer in the mood? That is me like 85% of the time. The good and bad part is I am a person of my word, so if I agree to it, I am going to do it. The only way I usually back out is if I have a legitimately good reason. I am the one person that you don’t have to worry about standing you up. Now if you say that you don’t feel like going anymore, I will not try to convince you otherwise. I’m relieved.
I don’t like to sit in a room that has windows and the blinds are not open. At my house I don’t really open the curtains/blinds though because I walk around with little to nothing on. I live in a neighborhood where people walking down the street can look in and I am not into voyeurism. Maybe I need windows that I can look out but people can’t see in. Ummm….
I realized that I am the kind of person who once I make up my mind, it is extremely hard for me to deviate from that. My ex-boyfriend was my type. I mean physical, spiritual and work ethics as well. Same views on marriage. I just knew that since I was finally dating my type that this would be the person that I was going to marry. Well I am still single, never married. I am not bad mouthing him or talking about him in any way. I don’t think we were right for each other. We are still friends and spend time together occasionally. The issue is that I wanted him to be so bad that I was blind or ignored all the tell tale signs. I just kept holding on way past when I should have let go because I had made up my mind. He was it, the one. This thinking had me 7 years later finally accepting what was, that though he was cool, he was not going to be my husband. I have to work on this quality of absolutes. I know that I will miss out or delay what is meant for me because I can’t let go of what I want.
I don’t like being told no, EVER!
I do not like PDA. I am usually disgusted seeing people kissing all passionately in public. Yuck!!! Save that shit for home. Now a peck is ok. A little hand holding or hugging is alright as well. But sitting in laps and dry humping 👎🏾. I know it is wrong to project my issues on others, but I don’t care.

So now that I am open and vulnerable, what say you? Share with me one thing about yourself that people would probably never figure out about you or one thing that makes you weird and quirky. Of course I know you are not going to put it in the comment 🙄, but you can always email me at elsims27@yahoo.com. I am interested to see your responses. Quick question, should I add more pictures on my blog? Whether it is of me, me doing things or even pictures I take of nature and other things. Just thinking pictures of me can help people put a face to the person who is supplying the content. Also, the other pictures could break up some of my constant talking. Lol. As always, be well and whole.

July 9, 2019

Kentucky Y’all

These birthday trip posts are so sporadic. Smh. I have to get them all in though before I take my next birthday trip which is coming soon. Lol. This year I have already started to plan it out. Since I truly didn’t have any real plans when I went down south for my birthday trip last year. The only thing I did plan was to stop in Cincinnati, OH. to visit Rashanna. We sat down and had a great dinner and conversation at Mimi’s Place, a nice local restaurant. A couple of mimosas as well. I think we may have closed the place down. Lol. Upon leaving Cincinnati, I crossed the state line into Kentucky and grabbed a room at the Red Roof Inn. Nicely renovated. Here I experienced the first of a couple falls. Not paying attention that there was a ledge to get into my room, I entered in backwards and tripped into the room. Down I went with luggage, food and a head bump on the desk. Yeah, not pleasant. I was able to laugh at it later. I only stayed there one night. Not because I bumped my head. I was ready to continue the rest of my trip. When I left I still didn’t know exactly where I was heading.

I stopped for breakfast at IHOP. I love their New York Cheesecake pancakes and their veggie omelet. I kept it moving from there. I just enjoyed riding down the expressway going actually close to the speed limit. Not feeling rushed, loving the colors. I considered going to The Ark. Once I looked at the price for the attraction and the price for parking I had to take that off the table. It was not included in my budget. Lol. I kept on riding past. I just stayed on the street but the scenery was boring. Now how the hell do I get back to the expressway? Google had me doing some crazy shit. On these backroads that were narrow as hell and kinda raggedy. I did catch this pic.

The cow is looking at me like “What heffa” lol

Once I found my way back to the expressway, I thought of a place that would fit in my budget. Cumberland Falls which so happened to be free. Perfect! I had been wanting to go for a little while. When I say these pictures I am going to share with you does not do it any justice. It was rainy and the sky was gloomy but it was such a beautiful and serene atmosphere. I was able to see all of my fall colors on display.

The first sight I seen upon parking. I was so overwhelmed with the beauty of it.

This pic used to be my screen saver. No one believed I took this pic. Lol.

Since it was rainy the stairs were a little slippery. Didn’t fall here though.

Now I did see a sign about wildlife that was a little unsettling. Lol. I was in their territory but I still didn’t want any encounters. I made it through without seeing any bears, snakes or any other dangerous animal. Phew. It wasn’t as if I could run or anything.

Upon leaving the park, I was ready to find a hotel close to Louisville. I thought that would be a great city to explore. I will cover this and more about Kentucky in the next post. Be well and whole.