Write It Down!

You know the infamous saying, “This is going to be my year.” Every year that I used that saying, I can tell you it was not my year! Each year I try to come up with a theme. A way to live my life that honors who I am and who I want to be. A way to specify the type of year I want to have and the way I want to accomplish things. Cute idea, right? I actually think it is, but I lose sight of my theme about 4 months into the year. Or even sooner if I experience a large speed bump in the road. The theme falls by the wayside just like a resolution. Do I plan on getting rid of the theme idea for this year? Nope. I just plan on executing the theme a little differently.

If you are like me, which I am sure about 50% of people are, you don’t write down your goals where you can see them regularly. Your goals are stored in a notebook or a notebook app on your phone. You don’t trot them out often for your viewing pleasure. Your goals may bounce around in your head, occasionally coming to the front as you accomplish one here and there. Yet they are not set in stone or written out where you will see them daily. How can you accomplish something that you are not even aware of?

In one of my previous post there was a link to my article for Vivyd Magazine with ways to keep track of goals completed. And they were good ideas, in my opinion. So this post is just piggy backing on that. If you haven’t read it yet, please do. Here is the link again,

https://www.ebonyoneverything.com/how-did-it-go-year-in-review-vivyd-article/

My favorite tip was the jar. I really liked how it gave you a clear idea of what happened throughout the year. It was all written out. And this is the point I’m trying to make here, don’t just type it, write it. I even heard it suggested that you write your goals daily. I have to be honest I probably won’t do that, but I can commit to writing them out weekly. This will keep my theme and my goals fresh in my mind. Not just an afterthought.

I am journal hoarder ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ. I go in the store and I see one I can’t resist and then I add it to my collection. I have gotten better. I can say I haven’t brought one in a few months. Since I have so many, I truly don’t have an excuse for not writing my yearly theme or my goals. Find yourself a journal that is irresistible and use it to write your goals in. Or if you aren’t into journals, get a notebook. I don’t care what method you use, just write. And write repeatedly.

If you have a method that has worked for you, stick to it! It would be greatly appreciated if you share it with me so I can share it with others. I will include it on my next post. It may be just the method for someone else needs. We all learn and do things differently. There is no right or wrong way. Any new tips I come across I will share. This year, I don’t want anyone to get to the end and feel like they haven’t accomplished anything. For one, you will have. For two, it may look different than what you planned and who cares, you still rocked it out! For three, if you don’t write it down, then how will you know? Stay well and whole. Much love ๐Ÿงก ๐Ÿ’š

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A Dream Deferred, Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Photo courtesy of K. Wills

“You can kill the dreamer, but you can’t kill the dream.”

 

Today, we as a nation honors Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Dr. King has some well known quotes that we recycle year after year. Words that we should all live by, but only get toted out at the same time every year. Not much as changed from his time here on this Earth til present day. We are still in the fight for equality. This nation, and many others, still have an unprecedented amount of people living in poverty. We are still a nation divided. We are still at war. His dream has not been realized.


I decided to use some of his lesser known quotes this year. Quotes that pertain specifically to the individual. Quotes that make you re-evaluate who you are and who you want to be. Change happens within ourselves and we then go out and change the world.

 

“We are now faced with the fact that tomorrow is today. We are confronted with the fierce urgency of now.”

 

“Procrastination is still the thief of time. Life often leaves us standing bare, naked and dejected with a lost opportunity.”

 

“There is nothing more tragic than to find an individual bogged down in the length of life, devoid of breadth.”

 

“Keep feeling the need for being first. But I want you to be first in love. I want you to be first in moral excellence. I want you to be the first in generosity.”

 

“A productive and healthy life is not something you find, it is something you make.”

 

“The quality, not the longevity, of one’s life is what is important.”

 

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?”

 

Photo courtesy of K. Wills

“If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way.”

 

“Not everybody can be famous but everybody can be great, because greatness is determined by service.”

 

“We stand in life at midnight; we are always at the threshold of a new dawn.”

 

Photo courtesy of K. Wills

“My obligation is to do the right thing. The rest is in God’s hands.”

Let’s not live these words, honor Dr. King’s legacy and celebrate our unity only on this day. Let’s strive to live lives of service, greatness, acceptance, peace and love each and every day. I’m not on my high horse, I am speaking to myself as well. It is not too late to make his dream come true. Be well and whole. Much Love ๐Ÿงก ๐Ÿ’š

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Year in Review, Photo Edition

It is the last day of 2021. Parts of this year flew by and other parts dragged on so slowly. I lost parts of it completely. And other parts are vivid in my mind. The one good thing is I take pictures. Pictures that allows me to recall places, events and other things. Here is parts of my past year in pictures and quotes.

Lobster rolls at Slapfish, Hilton Head Island, SC

If you are trying to impress me with your vehicle, it better be a food truck. – Unknown
Faith is not believing that God can, it is knowing that He will. – Unknown
Bill, Fellow MS Warrior

The struggle is real, but so are the blessings. – Unknown
Dinner at Benchmark Restaurant

Marry the one who gives you the same feelings you have when you see your food coming in a restaurant. – Unknown
Onion’s Graduation

This is your reminder that you are powerful beyond measure. – Unknown
Chalupa and my mom at Hamilton at the Fox Theater in Atlanta, GA

I’m just like my country, I’m young, scrappy and hungry and I’m not throwing away my shot. – Lin Manuel Miranda
ATVs with Onion and my mom in the Mojave Desert

Let your faith be bigger than your fear. – Unknown
My first podcast feature

When God sees your trying, he will handle the rest. – Unknown
Winter sunset at the Wright Family Park, Bluffton, SC

You mastered survival mode. Now it’s time to live. – Unknown
Onyx Cafe in Toledo, OH

If it wasn’t for the coffee, I’d have no identifiable personality whatsoever. – David Letterman
I will choose courage over fear when it comes to how I open my heart to love. – Morgan Harper Nichols
Day Ones in Las Vegas, Nevada

If you aren’t in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback. – Brene Brown
Bar Louie in Perrysburg, OH

Food is our common ground, a universal experience. – James Beard
Putting together my Alinker bike I received from the donations of very special people through my crowdfunding campaign.

If you are going through hell, keep going. – Winston Churchill
Franklin Conservatory

I am going to do the best I can with what I got. – Mariah Carey

Day Ones in Dallas, TX

And when we both get older, with walking canes and hair of grey. Have no fear, even though it’s hard to hear. I will stand real close and say, thank you for being a friend. – Golden Girl Theme
Article in Vivyd Magazine

I’m not even the best me yet. – Unknown

Thank you all for rocking this year out with me. Being patient as I went through my own personal dramas and growths. Tuning back in after I took months off. Believing in me and encouraging me. For any part you have played in my life, I thank you. I appreciate you. I love you. Be well and whole. Much love ๐Ÿงก ๐Ÿ’š

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