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I think the fact that I just attended a wedding inspired me to finish this post. Lol. By the way, the wedding was beautiful. We officially have Steven and Joy Parker. Ready to party at the reception.

On to the business at hand. So my friend Monica tagged me on Facebook about a young lady who was on The Steve Harvey Show. This young lady was presented with 50 available men, one from each state. She listed off about 4 requirements that she had for a man. Simple, not asking too much. Belief in someone or something greater than self, a car, his own accommodations not shared with anyone else and one other. Sorry I don’t remember what it was. More than half the men walked off the stage. Steve now asks her to list a couple of more requirements. She listed about 3 more, not wanting everything to be 50/50, not a macho man and a serial dater. She is now left with 4 men. Four men out of fifty! Wow. She says that she may be asking for too much. Steve reassured her by saying, “It is not your standards. It’s that you have to find men that meet ’em”.

I am not bringing this up to bash men at all. I believe that some of the men probably walked off because they were not interested in her and that’s fine. I am sure that a good portion also walked off because they did not fit her requirements. Mind you she did not say anything about height, hair color/style or overall looks. She was very clear in what she wanted. She had a set of standards that she knew had to be in place in order for her to have a happy and healthy relationship. I want to give her a high-five with the way she rattle them off. I have written down my needs and wants but I probably wouldn’t have been able to pick a clean 4 – 6 right off the top of my head. If placed in her position, could you do that? Men? Women?

The issue that I did have was the comment section. People, of course, are horrible on social media. They are bullies who say the meanest and most hurtful things. We know most of them wouldn’t dare have the balls to say it in your face, yet the hateful comments are still disturbing. Commentators, men and women, were putting her down about her standards and her looks. They were saying she would never find a man because she was expecting too much. Now y’all did hear me say she listed 6 – 7 things. They called her materialistic and a gold digger. To say that you don’t want a 50/50 relationship doesn’t make you a gold digger. I am seriously disappointed in the women who were making the comments. Really, we attack other women for having standards. Y’all hoes need to get some and stick to them. And if you don’t feel the need to have standards, don’t judge anyone else for having them.

Standards, in my opinion, are very important. I am shallow and I believe I dwell more on preferences. There is a big difference between the two. Preferences are things like looks, height, weight and social status. My preference is a man who has a height of 6 ft. or taller, brown skin, average build, nice smile and all his hair. My standards would be along the lines of someone who believes in God, has a job, a car and a place to stay that is not with his parents and who is successfully taking care of himself. A man who views marriage the same way that I do and who is loyal, upfront and honest about all the things that are important to us. No one is completely honest so I had to be specific on that point. And someone who loves me more than I love him. I am unsure if this is a preference or a standard. Lol.

Standards are guarantees that you will get treated the way that makes you feel loved and valued. They allow you to walk away from a relationship that does not serve you or makes you happy. How many times have you relaxed your standards and walked away from a relationship wishing you would not have done that? You are now bruised, figuratively and literally, distrusting and angry. You hate all men or women. You take that venom that is now inside you into the next relationship. To the person who meets your standards but you can’t relax because you are still carrying baggage from the last experience. I have been this person, kinda. I have relaxed my standards and been hurt pretty bad. But I start each new relationship giving that person the opportunity to present who they are. Not comparing them to the last one. It is unfair and can allow you to miss out on a really great person.

Do you know what your nonnegotiables are? Have you written them down? If you don’t know them yet, I would suggest looking at previous relationships and taking note of what was good and what was bad. The good things that you would want in future relationships could be the start to your list of standards. The bad things will also tell you what you are not willing to put up with no matter who the hell it is. It is so important to know yourself, your value and love yourself. It is the key to living a happy and healthy life. A life that when you look back you can say I have had more good than bad. That I lived with standards that represented me and I took shit off no one. It is not too late to start. If this speaks to you, it is time to reevaluate so that you can live well and whole. Love you all and wanting the best for each and every one of you.

Here is the link to the episode on YouTube. Check it out.

I am bass ackward. I have a post labeled Vegas Baby Pt. 1 but I haven’t finished it yet. This one however is complete so I’m posting it first. Lol. Y’all know I’m different.

I am such a loner. Last night I headed out on the Las Vegas Strip all by myself. It may sound unsafe but it was not. It was fifty million people. And the majority of them were rude as hell. I do not use my walking stick in my day-to-day operations, but I always have it with me when I am traveling. You would think that when people see me walking with it that they would have a little courteous, not so much. They were walking in front of me, on top of me and one even stepped on the back of my shoe. I had to dig deep into my reserve of politeness not to whack a person with my stick. I really thought about it seriously. Actually I was itching to do it. Yeah, I am not even a violent person, but I have my limits. I can proudly say I did not hit anyone with my stick but I did elbow a couple of people.

I didn’t make it to far down the strip. I stopped at the Cosmopolitan to rest my legs. I had to weigh my options at that point. Walk down a little further or save the leg strength I just gained to make it back to my hotel. Commonsense prevailed, back to the hotel. I walked back by the Bellagio and purchased a beer from a street vendor. Watched the water show again. I took the escalator up. When it was time to take one down, I wasn’t so confident. Yea I was a little buzzed off that beer. Lol. Thank God for elevators! At the bottom it was a ledge for me to rest again. I caught this sight.

Yes that is a dog 😂😂😂.

I did get a couple of good shots of the strip and the water show.

I happen to run into Steve, the groom, and a couple of other guys back at Caesar’s. The ladies and gentlemen were partying separately. If I wasn’t being so antisocial, I could have hung out with the ladies. There is always tonight though. And of course the wedding, the reception and  the after party. The plan for today is solo strip walking again before it gets too hot. It is supposed to be 96 degrees today. Too fucking hot for me.

Vegas in its grandiose is beautiful but I am not cool with all this rudeness. I know times have changed but manners should be eternal. I pray that you continue to be well and whole.

Sometimes I have thoughts that I write down with the intent of sharing on this blog. The issue is usually they are only a paragraph which would make for a short post. Before this point, they were just sitting in my Evernote app waiting for their day. Lol. Well I decided to combine a few of them into one post. There is no rhythm or reason. They are just my random and not so random thoughts. I will definitely be sharing more post like this.

1. I am the Road Rage Queen. I have gotten better though. I rarely ever flick anyone off or roll my window down to cuss them out. I still struggle with people doing stupid, inconsiderate things. They will get the horn or the evil glare as I pass by them. I believe that some people may not be aware of their driving mistakes and others just don’t really care. My suggestion for either group of people is they should be required to take the written part of the driving test at least every 10 years. This would refresh people’s knowledge about the do’s and do not’s of driving. Let’s be real, most people received their temps and/or driver’s licenses between the ages of 16 – 20 or so. Who and the hell truly remembers that information from so long ago?!? Nobody! I remember a few things, but if I had to take the test today, there is a good chance I may fail. I wonder who I need to contact to discuss this idea 🤔.

2. Here is another random car related thought. I wish that there was a device that allow us to call people in their cars and tell them things like your back lights are out, or their fuel door is open. Then of course, people like me would use it for bad as well. Like cussing them out or tell them to get out of my way. Lol. Nevermind, this may not be such a good idea.

3. This one time at Krogers I actually remembered to grab my Free Friday Download. It was some kind of Cheetos that wasn’t a Cheetos. Lol. They weren’t bad though. The bag was kind of little and I had to find a clip to close it because I wasn’t going to finish them. It hit me, why aren’t chip bags resealable like a Ziploc bag. Unless you are getting the tiny $.30 bag, chips have multiple servings. There is a chance that if not closed properly, chips can become stale. No one wants stale chips. So they would end up going to waste. If the packages were resealable it would preserve the chips for longer. I know this is a great idea, but the chance a manufacturer will actually do it is slim. I truly think any container that holds multiple servings should have a way to close/seal it to preserve freshness.

4. Men and women’s restrooms should be place in the same location at every place of business, church and school. Seriously! This happened to me awhile ago. I was at IHOP and went to use the restroom. I went right and walked into the men’s room. How did I know, well there was a man washing his hands. Thank God, it really could have been worse. I know that I am not the only person this has happened to. Well now I know the women’s room is on the left in IHOP. The other day, I was in J. Alexander’s and the women’s restroom was on the right. Ok picked a damn side and stick to it EVERYWHERE. Yes I realize that I could be more attentive, but why when restrooms could just be universally placed. Also, no matter how the establishment is set up, the women’s restroom should be first, period. This is not up for debate. Lol

5. I am so tired of people doing racist, stupid, ignorant shit and then apologizing like it makes it all better. If you have not studied up on another person’s culture, have a friend of that culture explain to you in-depth the importance of their culture and/or do not know the significance of your actions, DON’T FUCKING DO IT. IT can be anything involving another’s culture that is not your own. IT is blackface, calling people names that are degrading and disrespectful or acting like everyone in this country are not immigrants. Except for Native Americans, none of us are original occupants of this land. Whether we came here willingly or unwillingly as slaves. Others who are in need of opportunities, jobs, education or a safer environment, should be welcomed. There are lines and people seem to be crossing them every day. And then the first thing they say is, “I didn’t realize that it was offensive” or the golden line, “I’m not a racist”. Enough is enough! Get your shit together and get educated or sit your dumb ass down somewhere. Geesh! And if you are really racist, say that. It is best for people to know who they are dealing with. Quit hiding when the truth is found out. This country is truly showing its true colors and they are not pretty like a rainbow.

My mind is overflowing with these kinds of thoughts. I write them down, but I don’t share them too often. I guess because I figure no one really wants to hear them. I believe if you are reading my blog, that you are interested in hearing these things. I hope so at least. Or maybe just bored. Lol. I’ll take it either way. I hope your new year is going well and will continue to do so. Please feel free to share some of your goals or victories with me. I would love to hear them. Be well and whole.